by Dr. Mark Beadle , Guest Contributor
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Schools are often attacked and maligned for not doing the right thing.  During this 2020 pandemic, the public has often seen things schools could have done better.  Certainly, we have all adjusted and schools have been schooled like many of our institutions and businesses-churches, libraries, hotels, airlines, …

But there is a group of schools that have done many things right.  I wanted to write about these Christian schools and will start with a quote and a story:
 
“We prayed all along, but since March we have chosen to open a new school in every way.  We have started over!”  Southside Christian School is in Simpsonville, South Carolina and has grown by 100 students this year. Their Sup ’t, Dr. Sam Barfell, calls it a surge.  They have 1160 students, 45 of which are enrolled in virtual classes that are offered as live video versions of a face to face class.  They have waiting lists at most grade levels.  They invested $630,000 to achieve these results but that seems to have already paid off! They are doing things right!

On April 15, 2020, Bill McGee of Legacy Christian Academy wrote: “DON’T WASTE THIS PANDEMIC.”   He modeled a mindset that allowed Godly change and growth.  No school could afford to stay the same or just plan to return to normal. ACSI, CSI and other leaders offered resources to help with this change so that a school did not have to do this alone.  Some schools embraced the crisis as an opportunity.    The Wall Street Journal reports that some private schools grew and some lost enrollment.

 What were three right things that schools did? 

Communicate- successful schools developed internal and external communications to let parents know what plans were being made and how safety was going to be ensured.  They overcommunicated. They attracted new students with a new message.  They re-assured current parents. 

Bill McGee (noted above) said- “The three things Legacy Christian Academy did right in response to the pandemic were 1) communicate, 2) communicate, and 3) communicate. We greatly increased the frequency and transparency of our communications with our parents, faculty, and staff. We expanded our communication strategies to include video messages and live town hall meetings, during which parents could submit questions on-demand and receive immediate answers. We also invested many hours in developing brochures, charts, decision trees, web pages, and other graphics that have helped our families understand and navigate expectations and protocols.”
This was undoubtably hard and required time and effort but Andy Stanley says: "People crave certainty, but as a leader, certainty is beyond your control. The next best thing is clarity."

Planned to change- Change is always hard and most of us did not have any choice this time around.   But by pulling together parents, faculty, and school leaders, schools could plan the change that they wanted.  It has been interesting to see the huge variety of options (p.5) that has resulted.  If a school listens to their “customer” they certainly have a better chance of succeeding than “just” diligently working to get things back to the way they were.   Successful schools were open to change and worked the plan to get there.

“We have been on a roller coaster all summer regarding plans to start school in the fall. Each time the plans have changed, our staff has not flinched. They reorganize, re-evaluate their programs, and move ahead without complaint. Our prayer life together has improved and provided much solace.” --San Francisco Bay Area School Leader

Added online options- Schools had to have a solution when a face to face option did not work for a family or the school.   Many schools trained their teachers in delivering online content.  “Getting Smart” suggested it was time to think about partnering with an online provider and many schools did.  Sevenstar (an online partner for face to face schools) experienced record enrollments from Christian schools and even more partnerships with leading schools.  

Here is a quote from a school with 309 new online enrollments: “We have honored our families in these uncertain times by offering a solid Biblically integrated program of online courses. Our students are learning right where they are and getting the benefit of a high-quality education.”

The bottom line- The biggest thing private schools did right was re-open! The public schools are still figuring it out and people are noticing a difference.  After deciding to re-open, they communicated, planned and added online options.

​Dr. R. Mark Beadle is CEO Emeritus of Sevenstar.  He loves seeing Christian schools change so they succeed, and students are helped.

by Matt Thomas, Ed.D.

Author and poet David Whyte tells the story of a man who married when he was young. In the early years of his marriage, the man regularly seemed frustrated, out of sorts, and even irritated at his new spouse. When asked about his sour attitude, the young man answered, “The woman I have pledged to spend the rest of my life with wants to talk about the same thing every day, every night, and every weekend.” The topic? The quality of their relationship. 
 
Finally, the young man gathered the courage to ask his new wife, “Why must we continue to have the same conversation over and over, day after day? Could we not just have one conversation and then be done for the year?”
 
Apparently not. Because at age 42, the couple was still having the same conversation. Only this time, after all these years, the man now realized, “the ongoing conversation the couple had been having was not actually about the relationship, it was the relationship.” 
 
The lesson, Whyte says, is simple: the conversation is the relationship, and if the conversation stops, the relationship dies. 
 
This story could not be more appropriate for Christian leaders. Too often, leaders find themselves being annoyed by that which is central to their calling. Rather than pursuing those we are to serve, we pursue solitude; but where solitary leadership exists, isolation is bred. 
 
Solomon addresses the fallout that occurs when solitary leadership is an accepted norm. 
 
Whoever isolates himself seeks his own desire; he breaks out against all sound judgment. Proverbs 18:1.
 
It can be an easy move to hide behind a desk and work on projects from mission control or to create distance by refraining from taking relationships deeper. It’s easy to succumb to the growing complexities related to school and classroom leadership and look for ways to separate yourself from the organisms within the organization. But, compassionate leadership compels us to step out, to seek others, to converse. 
 
Compassionate leaders find ways to foster the conversation. Here are three tips that may increase the relational standing and well-being of those within your school or classroom.
 
1. Assess how compassionate you really are.
Being able to demonstrate compassion begins with an assessment of yourself. Here are a few questions to ask yourself,

• What are my real goals for today? 
• How do those goals encourage conversations with others?
• How often do I find myself practicing politeness toward others in conversations rather than being deeply intentional with each interaction?
• When was the last time I asked someone what they were really thinking about a key issue in my school or classroom?
• How often do I avoid someone because the conversation is repetitive?

 
Depending on your answer, there may need to be several adjustments made internally before compassion will ever be a description of your leadership. It’s important to take the pulse of relationships by honestly asking yourself these questions, but a more productive outcome may result when you check in with others to learn how compassionate you’ve been.
 
I’ve always admired C.S. Lewis’s ability to see himself as he is. In Surprised by Joy, he transparently shares an observation to which we can relate. He characterized his inward man as “a zoo of lusts, a bedlam of ambitions, a nursery of fears, and a harem of hatreds.” Lewis knew that he was not always operating from a disposition of love and holiness, just as we might not always operate from a base camp of compassion.    
 
2. Cancel the culture of “niceness.”  
Being nice is nice, but being nice often replaces genuine interactions with a surface level conversation. Leaders fail to show people that the relationship matters when they keep the conversation at a superficial level. Effective conversations call leaders to praise what is worthy of praise and to confront what needs to be confronted. Whether it be an attitude, a performance, or a behavior, genuine interactions strengthen the relationship so these areas can be addressed appropriately and healthily. 
 
How can leaders do this well? Try answering the following questions.

• Why am I here? The right answer is not to lead, but to relate. When leaders relate in ways that exceed being nice, others recognize it and respond in meaningful ways. 
• What is the ideal relationship look like with this person?
• What is the most important thing we should be talking about?

 
The most valuable currency a leader has is the relationship they share with each individual in the school. Therefore, invest wisely. 
 
3. Always converse with compassion. 
More than one person has told me that when I discuss a matter for which I care deeply, I can come across with great “passion.” My wife gave me the same helpful feedback early in our marriage. She said, “I know you’re not upset, your just passionate.” She’s right! 
 
Because we are human, we naturally talk emotionally first and rationally second. Leaders can become so focused on a plan to share, a lesson to give, or communicating a point that strong emotions are displayed without our awareness. And, because my intent is always to be compelling, I may forget that the recipient of my emotive outburst does not share that same understanding. Whether intentional or not, everything we say leaves an emotional wake. I’ve personally seen this in my conversations with my colleagues and at other times with my children. What I’ve learned and am oft reminded of is there is never an excuse to convey such emotion and in turn, justify it as passion. Rather as Christ-followers, we must converse with compassion because we believe that our lives succeed or fail one conversation at a time. 
 
Here are some practices that have served me well,

• Remembering there is no trivial comment or conversation. Not only does every word matter but more importantly, the tone in which it is delivered.
• Committing to talk with people rather than at them.
• Giving space and time for meaningful conversations to slow down to hear to myself speak. I know the more emotion involved, the greater the need to balance with silence. 
• Sharing with others what I hope to receive from them…compassion.

 
May we strive to be leaders who others naturally endear themselves to because of the honest, open, and meaningful conversations we refuse to let die.
 
Don’t stop the conversation.